Yes to everything you say but she is wrong on how older women dating younger men get no backlash. Seems just like a cheap shot pseudo-feminist thing to say but Brigitte Macron and Sam Taylor-Johnson are just the first two examples that came to mind. Have literally been torn to shreds for it. Yawn to Eileen
Self-delusion is harmful because the buck stops at the lie. You give up the ability to evaluate and analyze your position in order to support the narrative you want so badly to be true. “Connection can happen at all ages” prevents you from asking “Why can’t I access the circles or lifestyle I want on my own merits?”
Best thing she can do for herself and her career is not to try to sell her narrative. The more she insist everyone else is wrong, the more right they seem.
If she’s following this path, she should focus on honing her craft so she can put those new connections to good use.
Despite having no real connection to Eileen, i’ve been loving all the discourse. “Eileen Kelly needs to defend her position as not-a-gold-digger because she wants to be taken seriously as a writer, and serious writers don’t social climb so shamelessly.” — yes!
Just to add: Kiedes has written in his own memoir about how he slept with a 14 year old girl who informed him of her age beforehand. Who knows how many other victims he’s had
I wonder if she’ll age out of his acceptable/preference zone first? Or if she’ll get all the goodies you claim she’s in it for first?
The framing here is that she’ll get a book deal and bounce. But maybe he’ll find someone he likes better, someone with better skin or a lower BMI or whatever.
I don't mean to come off as dismissive but I googled her and she doesn't seem like a serious person or a writer. Essays like these are exactly what she wants to generate. I also doubt someone like her, an influencer from a mega-rich and connected family who is just handed spots at high profile magazines to write ai-assisted diary entries is getting writing connections from some washed up rockstar from a band most people think is corny. I feel like once a year i see a rage-bait think piece about age-gap relationships that everyone goes crazy about. I think its better to not give them oxygen.
I think her Vogue articles aren't great, but I did like some of her earlier sex ed stuff, which put her on the map for Vogue. I don't know if what she's writing now is what she really wants to be publishing. She seems a bit lost, I've observed that people who end up in relationships like this tend to lack direction
Out of curiousity i skimmed some of her stuff and not to be pretentious but i don’t think someone like that is worthy of intellectual engagement and is platformed because she has parasocial followers who want to vicariously consume empty lifestyle content in the form of “cool detached writer who badly imitates joan didion.” I’d honestly have way more respect for people like that if they dropped the whole sexy lolita feminist philosopher thing and stuck to being hot and rich on instagram
Yes to everything you say but she is wrong on how older women dating younger men get no backlash. Seems just like a cheap shot pseudo-feminist thing to say but Brigitte Macron and Sam Taylor-Johnson are just the first two examples that came to mind. Have literally been torn to shreds for it. Yawn to Eileen
perfectly said
Self-delusion is harmful because the buck stops at the lie. You give up the ability to evaluate and analyze your position in order to support the narrative you want so badly to be true. “Connection can happen at all ages” prevents you from asking “Why can’t I access the circles or lifestyle I want on my own merits?”
Based.
Best thing she can do for herself and her career is not to try to sell her narrative. The more she insist everyone else is wrong, the more right they seem.
If she’s following this path, she should focus on honing her craft so she can put those new connections to good use.
Despite having no real connection to Eileen, i’ve been loving all the discourse. “Eileen Kelly needs to defend her position as not-a-gold-digger because she wants to be taken seriously as a writer, and serious writers don’t social climb so shamelessly.” — yes!
Just to add: Kiedes has written in his own memoir about how he slept with a 14 year old girl who informed him of her age beforehand. Who knows how many other victims he’s had
And his hairstyle sucks
"Eileen Kelly needs to defend her position..."
She doesn't need to do this at all. She seems to clearly advocate for a life of doing what she wants and she's doing just that.
She doesn't need to address you or critics at all, she can just keep doing what she wants.
I wonder if she’ll age out of his acceptable/preference zone first? Or if she’ll get all the goodies you claim she’s in it for first?
The framing here is that she’ll get a book deal and bounce. But maybe he’ll find someone he likes better, someone with better skin or a lower BMI or whatever.
I don't mean to come off as dismissive but I googled her and she doesn't seem like a serious person or a writer. Essays like these are exactly what she wants to generate. I also doubt someone like her, an influencer from a mega-rich and connected family who is just handed spots at high profile magazines to write ai-assisted diary entries is getting writing connections from some washed up rockstar from a band most people think is corny. I feel like once a year i see a rage-bait think piece about age-gap relationships that everyone goes crazy about. I think its better to not give them oxygen.
I think her Vogue articles aren't great, but I did like some of her earlier sex ed stuff, which put her on the map for Vogue. I don't know if what she's writing now is what she really wants to be publishing. She seems a bit lost, I've observed that people who end up in relationships like this tend to lack direction
Out of curiousity i skimmed some of her stuff and not to be pretentious but i don’t think someone like that is worthy of intellectual engagement and is platformed because she has parasocial followers who want to vicariously consume empty lifestyle content in the form of “cool detached writer who badly imitates joan didion.” I’d honestly have way more respect for people like that if they dropped the whole sexy lolita feminist philosopher thing and stuck to being hot and rich on instagram